The challenge of raising children has become one of the most extensively researched areas of human behavior. There were so many and so many recipes that appeared over the last few years that the parents, after all, were bewildered.
After all, what works? Are there any formulas that, if applied with discretion, will create a favorable environment for children to become emotionally balanced adults with a chance of being productive and happy?
Psychologist Laurence Steinberg of Temple University, one of the most respected professionals in the U.S., believes he has found a denominator in the almost endless battery of research and reflection between parents and children. In an extraordinary effort to synthesize half a century of behavioral research, Steinberg summarized in ten basic principles the whole range of attitude and reactions that parents should be conditioned to have towards their children.
It seems too simple, but behind this statement stands one of the most consistent proposals for early childhood education that has emerged in recent years. Steinberg's ideas are exposed in his book, "The 10 basic Principles of Good Parenting", launched in 2004 in the USA, it became an immediate success among parents and experts.
1. Day-to-day attitudes are more important than advice.
Children learn much more by observing their parents' behavior than by listening to them.
2. Show unconditional affection for your child. This will not make you spoiled.
It is very healthy to hug and kiss your children, regardless of age.
3. Get involved in your child's life.
Lack of monitoring increases their risk of becoming involved with drugs, alcohol, delinquency and early pregnancy.
4. Change the way of treating the child according to the stages of growth.
The technique that works at one age is a disaster at another.
5. Establish rules and limits early.
Over time, they help your child manage their own behavior.
6. Encourage your child to become independent.
Many parents mistakenly associate the search for independence with rebellion, disobedience and disrespect.
7. Be consistent.
If the rules of the game change every day, or are forgotten, the fault for the bad behavior lies with the parents, not the child.
8. Avoid physical punishment and verbal abuse.
Punishment is necessary, but accompanied by violence it has a harmful effect in the short and long term.
9. explain your decisions and listen to your child's point of view.
He will accept your orders more easily if he understands that they make sense.
10. Treat your child with respect.
The child treats others the way they are treated by their parents.